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CansaFis Foote's avatar

...that obongjayar is straight fire...i haven't figured out yet what it means to me but thinking along the line of averages i was considering what it means to be "normal" and how abnormal it is to be normal given all the infinite ways of being/seeing/experiencing life we have...it is wild that in an endless universe of possibility that we still have pockets of our existence that tie together as a great majority experience...my brain says the outlier should be more prevalent but it isn't and/or at least appears not to be so...and then my brain is broken again...great read today!...

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Jesugbemi's avatar

I think most humans are very similar because we are... humans. We're not as different as we think we are and we experience life similarly.

I believe so because in the last month, I spent hours on Instagram Reels and videos of people living thousands of kilometers away experience the same thoughts, feelings that I experience regularly, kept popping up. Strangely, I am no different from one 'Benedict Smith' living in London.

Of course there will be unique experiences in terms of social economic status, etc but essentially, we're all humans.

To break it to you... The 'outliers' are the people we term as 'mentally ill'.

In one of my classes last semester we spent weeks trying to define what 'normal and abnormal' is. At the end of the day we couldn't settle on one definition because humans are that complex.

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Sandra Yvonne's avatar

I love Bell Hooks & that book; that powerful mind of hers! Conversations around love can be so limited in the ways people explore it.

Also, I think way too much about the introvert/extrovert/ambivert thing for someone who doesn't even like to be labeled in general or with those terms. I find labeling myself like that so limiting in terms of how I want to imagine myself and how I can possibly exist in the world; my energy and the way it buzzes or becomes depleted in certain interactions/spaces/situations is so contextual. Sometimes, I'm like idk man maybe I'm nothing lol or maybe I am simply an average one.

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Jesugbemi's avatar

In the real sense, the introvert-extrovert label is very limiting. And also it's a continuum so we will all be on varying 'levels'. I think that's why it's difficult to exactly pinpoint where one is.

My energy levels also depend on context.

I don't know a lot about personality yet but I believe it's affected by society as much as it's affected by our brain 'chemicals'. There's usually a psychobiosocial approach to most human constructs.

And also the extroversion-introversion is a small part of our encompassing personality...

Of course you're something. A living, breathing story. Humans

are so fascinating so it'd be a treat to be privy to what makes up your story...

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